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Tips for your first MFM lifestyle threesome

Updated: Jul 5

Your first MFF (male, female, female) or MFM (male, female, male) threesome can be amazing, but it can also be a total nightmare if you're not prepared. Everyone has a fantasy in their head about how that outing will go, but there are some things to keep in mind before inviting another person into your bedroom for lifestyle play.


The most common lifestyle threesome is the MFF threesome, but some couples are interested in inviting another man into the bedroom for lifestyle play. Most men don't want to be with other men. They have strict rules and boundaries that are set before the game begins. In couples where both partners are bisexual, this kind of interaction is much easier, but the rules are set before the couple commits to it. Here are some tips for experienced swingers:


Open the conversation and discuss boundaries. Communication is the first and most important step to successful partner swapping in the swinger lifestyle. If all parties agree and set boundaries, the first meeting will be a much better experience for all involved. Some questions to discuss with your primary partner in the 3rd edition include:


Rules for safe sex – 

Do you want to get tested for STIs or use condoms or dental dams? Make this a priority. Is it acceptable for two of the people involved to be intimate as a couple, or should everyone be involved? To what extent is physical contact with a third party permitted and desired? Will the third person spend the night with you, or come home? These are just a few starting points, but make sure to keep the discussion focused on you and your partner's sexual needs. There are some important aspects to consider before having your first threesome.


#1: Don't overthink it


It's important to set rules and boundaries, but don't get too nervous before meeting. Stress can affect your performance, so you'll get the best results by talking and getting to know each other before having sex in the bedroom.


Tip #2: Protect yourself


Health and hygiene come first, so use condoms as a basic precaution. There are other things to discuss before a threesome, like secondary birth control and prevention of STIs.


Tip #3: Avoid threesomes with personal friends


Some people can accept the concept that sex is just sex, but others take it more seriously and it can cause drama. So, we recommend that you don't tell your close friends, neighbors, or coworkers about this. Use a swinger website to connect with like-minded people and make things a little more complicated. It might seem weird to be with a stranger, but it can be pretty hot and sexy, and there's less room for awkwardness the next day.


Tip #4: Make sure the three-way relationship is stable.

Going back to communication, make sure each of you feels comfortable being together sexually. Essentially, your relationship needs to be rock solid, free of jealousy, and open to new experiences.

















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